TODAY IS THE PREFECT DAY TO START: THINKING POSITIVELY

STOP WORRYING HOW IT’S GOING TO HAPPEN AND START BELIEVING IT WILL!

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It’s tough not to worry whilst we all are sitting in the midst of an epidemic without an income dwelling over our next move. Who can honestly say they’re not distracted by paying the bills, being on ‘leave without pay’ or planning their own independence whilst being bullied or trying to survive the unforeseen future. Anxiety has definitely dominating my productivity during my entrepreneurial contribution, home and social life and even my relationships are taking a knock, so I’ve decided instead to stop it by giving myself permission to go through it and so here is what I’m going to try and do.

Please feel free too ‘piggy back’ on my thoughts and share yours whilst we have to trust that today is the perfect day to start thinking positively:

• All or nothing thinking: I’ve looked only at the black and white scenarios, with no grey area. For example, “If I can’t be perfect in everything I do, I’m a failure.”

• Overgeneralising: I’ve been having several negative experiences as of late, assuming it is the truth. For example, “I’ve been put on leave without pay = my boss has lost trust in me.”

• Making negative assumptions without actual evidence: I’ve been acting like a mind reader: “He has lost trust in me because I stopped showing my values to the business.”

• Assuming responsibility for things that are outside your control: “He stopped feeling the connection because I’m not attractive enough.”

What should happen next, which is so much easier said than done is to challenge your negative thoughts and ask yourself:

1. Should I take a step back and look if there is a more positive or realistic way of looking at the situation?

2. What real evidence do I have to make my thoughts true or untrue?

3. Are these thoughts helpful in any way to stop me from being hurt?

4. What would my advice be to my friend going through the same thing?

Instead of excessive worrying making us go crazy or burn out, we should be giving ourself some ‘time out’ and focus on ways to improve our positive thinking.

I’ve been getting up early each morning to play a sport called ‘Badminton’ which is a natural but enjoyable way of exercising. When we exercise we release happy endorphins which allow us to release tension and stress and help boost energy and enhance our sense of well-being. We all know how hard it is to get our ass out of bed if we are not happy, but we also know how happy we are once we get moving. So its’ time to ‘GROW THE F*CK UP’ and do it! In the afternoons I take out my phone and YouTube a yoga class and focus my mind on my movements and breathing. This helps me to clear my mind and I end up very relax. Now saying all this - its fucking hard to be consistent because for me its all to do with summer and I’ve been lucky to live on an island where we have sunshine all year round, but if you are living in a country with 4 seasons you need very strict discipline to follow through, but it’s not impossible. My Mum, the most beautiful human being out there, told my brother and I growing up that “its all in the state of the mind” and who were we too disagree. However at that age it made no sense we just agreed, but at 42 years of age everything she told us growing up is all coming back to me now. Here is once more Mummy’s remedy for anxiety, try deep breathing because when you worry, you become anxious and breathe faster, but by taking 10 or more deep breathes you can calm your mind and negative thoughts, or if you are anything like me make sure you have a trusted friend around who doesn’t mind to pick up the phone and listen without any interruptions to my crappy over the top emotions.

Since I’ve been put on ‘leave without pay’ I’ve been contributing to this small business idea in a country where I feel I don’t belong and with some ex-employers bullying my creativity to GROW and so automatically I’m worried about the future. I’ve been trying really hard to practise a century-old practise of mindfulness that’s based on observing my worries and helping me to let them go.

It’s important to identify where you think the cause of the problem is coming from and then to get in touch with your emotions by thinking positively and focussing on the present:

• Get to know your worries: Don’t ignore them, fight them or try to control them as I’ve mentioned above. I always try to think what would my friend do.

• Say goodbye to your worries: Take note that once you don’t try to control your anxiety, it soon passes like water over a duck’s back.

• Stay connected to the present: Pay attention to you and take a break when needed and always listen to your body and your friends.

• And for fun why not find a superpower: I’ve started to dance in heels to all the songs of some of my favourite idols, Celine, Cher and Annie.

My philosophy is to embrace living a conscious and active lifestyle. So I’ve helped created GROW Bowls and Rolls to help you keep feeling refreshed, energised and ready to take on the day, positively.

All our GROW Bowls are available for 149THB with free delivery over 300THB.

Welcome to your Homemade Happiness xo