ONE OF THE MOST TOXIC THINGS I’VE DONE IS IGNORE THE BAD IN SOMEONE BECAUSE I WANTED TO KEEP THEM IN MY LIFE - NEVER F*CKING AGAIN!
Tell me what was your motive? I think…it was your reason for doing something, especially one that was hidden or not obvious. Why do you make me re-act in that why? Why do we lose ourselves in moments of miss-calculated intuitions?
Have you ever trusted your gut so much that you wake up at night in your own sweat wondering why you wasted half a year being a fool…a fool rushing into an emotional relationship that ended up with a dodgy stomach that was just one big shit storm.
Disappointments are part of GROW’ing up but I also think it’s partly because I’m alone on this island - an island where there is no Winston’s but instead the idea of having a friend that’s a ball or a coconut gives me hope. Sometimes you just want to talk, imagine and create a world where no one talks back at you.
“You don’t know someone until you know what they want.”
Here are some different examples of motives I found online to help me understand other people, and if they won’t change, I will.
When people act strange or uncomfortable around you they are definitely not sure: The motive is fear; they may be worrying about your agenda or they are scared of being rejected or fearful of being liked.
When we give constructive criticism, even though it may be something we don’t enjoy: The motive is love: you have the desire for the other person to do well. By sharing good information you want to help them.
Lying and not being honest or truthful and pretending everything is OK when it’s not: The motive is fear; there is a need to protect yourself because you assume the other person will react badly if you tell the truth.
Sharing the blame and taking responsibility for a situation someone you care about created: The motive is love; having the need to help improve the situation, knowing that placing blame on one person won’t help or change the situation or you.
What we put out there we attract back and if we live our lives in fear then insecurities and desperation is what will show up for us every time. Want to change your motives for actions? Then be prepared to change your thinking and watch when the magic happens.
Accept that you will always feel vulnerable but acting from a place of love will dissolve fear.
Acknowledge by writing these feelings down and it will help you to put your thoughts into perspective, or start a blog.
Be courageous enough to take full accountability for your actions. You will feel liberated.
Follow your gut and allow your sixth sense to make you look up from time to time because when you do look up, you’ll see your luminous universe covered in shinny bright diamonds and it will remind you that it’s human to fail, break and fall, but then, We rise, We heal. We overcome.
Farewell 2020!
Homemade Happiness xo
